What’s God’s Attachment Style?
An examination of God from the Christian Perspective.
Before I begin, the topic on attachment style is not as common, even though it is essential to the way a person behaves towards everything and everyone in their lives: career, relationships, health, etc. It's how we learned to attach from our childhood years. It is basically our rulebook for how we learned to interact with other people and things in the world.
There are four attachment styles: secure, anxious preoccupied, fearful-avoidant, and dismissive-avoidant. Everyone person on this earth has an attachment style, whether they know it or not. It's also kind of on a spectrum, in that one person can have a primary attachment style with secondary ones lurking in the background, just like me. I am a Fearful Avoidant with a dismissive side, especially in friendships. I am healing now so I am changing 😊, becoming more secure.
For more info on attachment styles to better understand the piece written below, look here. Or better still you can check out my favorite person’s
YouTube Channel here. She’s called Thais Gibson and she’s one of the world’s best psychologists and trauma therapists in my opinion. Check out her playlist on attachment styles here.
We shall begin now…
Surely one must conclude, even before bringing this question up, that God definitely has a secure attachment style. After all, God is pure, without stain, without disfunction or emotional wounds from past pain. He holds no grudge, not even from the betrayal of his most trusted servant, the devil.
But maybe, just maybe if you think about it twice, and if indeed all things are possible through Christ who gives us strength, then God might be another attachment style. It’s okay if you do not want to entertain this thought. But do bear in mind that at times it helps to test the ‘forbidden’ waters. It opens your mind to newer possibilities. Even Jesus questioned the status quo when he dined and wined with people who were abominable in the eyes of society.
Thus let us commence our scrutinization.
Can God be anxious preoccupied?
We might not be able to accurately predict God’s attachment style for now. But this scrutiny does make our shame lighter when we begin to realize that we are closer to God than we imagined. We can then be less tough on ourselves when we make mistakes, and learn to forgive ourselves. We can say to ourselves,” If God went through it and made it through, then maybe so can I.”
